One Crafty Mother

Great song! Jonathan Edwards does a nice version, ...

2012-05-27T19:07:35.536-04:00

Great song! Jonathan Edwards does a nice version, too.

Many more trips for you, Ellie!

Thanks E. Ah, the regret that comes with loss. It&...

2012-05-27T15:38:03.380-04:00

Thanks E. Ah, the regret that comes with loss. It's been one of the hardest things for me.

To my mind, the lyrics should be "hanging on doesn't change a thing ..." but I admit I'm probably too linear in thinking.

Hugs.

Beautiful. Happy blog-iversary!

2012-05-27T14:08:16.928-04:00

Beautiful. Happy blog-iversary!

Hi Konnie - I will be thinking of you and your &...

2012-05-27T13:01:53.697-04:00

Hi Konnie -

I will be thinking of you and your "one year", sending lots of positive thoughts and prayers your way. I never fully appreciate how hard the anniversaries' are of losing a loved one close to you until I'm experiencing it myself, so I now how you feel, and it's REALLY hard.

I interpret the song to mean the hanging onto things, trying to control or change things to make them go your way doesn't actually work, and leads to misery, so it's easier/better/more peaceful to let them go. For example I find myself wishing SO BADLY I could remember if my last words to my Dad were 'I love you'. I'll never know, and obsessing about it isn't helping, so I gotta let it go. That type of thing.

Thinking of you not just tomorrow, but lots and lots.

-xo

-E.

2012-05-27T13:01:04.553-04:00

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Happy blog-aversary Ellie. I have been reading si...

2012-05-27T12:48:30.294-04:00

Happy blog-aversary Ellie. I have been reading since day 1. Thank you for all you have shared in 4 years.

Oh and that song. Tomorrow is one year since I lost my Mom. I can't tell you how apt that song was for me to hear today.

But about that quote " ... wouldn't change a thing if I let go...". I may be daft, but I don't quite get it. I thought we SHOULD let things go. Or is that a way of saying really that HANGING on doesn't change anything so you may as well let go. Hmmm.

Anyway, thinking about you in the coming weeks as I know your "one year" is also coming up very soon.

Thanks, Judy. I am with you on the steel guitar -...

2012-05-27T12:05:59.368-04:00

Thanks, Judy.

I am with you on the steel guitar - not my fave. That's why I like the Al Anderson version better (that's the one I have on my iPod). Here's a link to it if you're interested: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GCe5wZac4hs

Thanks!

-xo

-E.

Electric steel guitar makes my skin crawl. But I l...

2012-05-27T12:01:33.758-04:00

Electric steel guitar makes my skin crawl. But I love the lyrics of this song! Especially "If there's one thing that I've learned from all this living, it's that it wouldn't change a thing if I let go." Wow!
Thank you, Ellie. and Happy Bloggabirthday!

So moving. I'm so sorry for your loss.

2012-05-27T00:28:57.217-04:00

So moving. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Seeing as I JUST found this blog, please keep writ...

2012-05-27T00:25:37.845-04:00

Seeing as I JUST found this blog, please keep writing it? ;)

HI, I am just blog hopping and guess I hop into a ...

2012-05-26T23:39:31.201-04:00

HI, I am just blog hopping and guess I hop into a great site. Love your post. Very inspiring. Like you said, one day at a time. Today you are a cancer survivor and that's it, full-stop. Hpe you have a great week ahead.

Wow. Just ... wow.

2012-05-26T16:44:50.413-04:00

Wow.
Just ... wow.

I love this, Ellie! Rewriting my site now, using...

2012-05-26T09:17:58.328-04:00

I love this, Ellie! Rewriting my site now, using the "survivor" word for the first time in print, not sure how I feel about that. This helps. Enormously. It's really beautiful... thank you!

xo

2012-05-25T13:53:34.376-04:00

I definitely needed the third step prayer tonight....

2012-05-25T01:16:22.274-04:00

I definitely needed the third step prayer tonight. Thank you.

I am glad you are here to continue sharing with us...

2012-05-24T23:48:23.972-04:00

I am glad you are here to continue sharing with us. I love your poem. Your dad knows you love him. You've been talking to him all along.

Thanks for sharing...wonderful and inspiring words...

2012-05-24T23:25:12.996-04:00

Thanks for sharing...wonderful and inspiring words.
Peace and love,
Siggi in Downeast Maine

It is a blessing you still have your mom.

2012-05-24T23:14:00.790-04:00

It is a blessing you still have your mom.

The wise man in the storm prays God, not for safet...

2012-05-24T16:01:13.081-04:00

The wise man in the storm prays God, not for safety from danger, but for deliverance from fear. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Ellie, if we could just learn to deal with this fear thing, then being a "survivor" would be a cake walk, right? I guess, though, you are right... we just do the "survivor" thing one day at a time and surrender the rest. There's no question that TODAY we are survivors.

I guess we grieve one day at a time as well... some days... we grieve over the loss, some days we grieve over the regrets we carry... I am full of gratitude for the people that love me... they don't need to tell me one more time - even if today is my last day. They've told me in so many ways already! I'm sure your Dad would have said the same... he just knew!

I love "Reaching for the Very Intimate."...

2012-05-24T13:57:21.106-04:00

I love "Reaching for the Very Intimate." What a scary thing for most of us to consider, and how wonderful different intimacies can be.

Ellie...you are awesome!

To say you are a cancer survivor implies you are a...

2012-05-24T13:15:27.340-04:00

To say you are a cancer survivor implies you are also a victim. I rather think of you as a cancer conqueror. That implies that you are a warrior who has just fought the most incredible fight of her life and emerged victorious!

So Namaste to the Ellie the Conqueror.

Great post Ellie. I really needed to read this thi...

2012-05-24T10:26:17.086-04:00

Great post Ellie. I really needed to read this this morning. Thank you.

XO

Beautiful.

2012-05-24T10:17:00.593-04:00

Beautiful.

Beautiful poem, Ellie. Thinking of you!

2012-05-24T10:09:06.467-04:00

Beautiful poem, Ellie. Thinking of you!

Lovely poem, and lovely post. We’ve been talking a...

2012-05-24T10:06:28.297-04:00

Lovely poem, and lovely post. We’ve been talking about recurrence fears at our page, and it’s an awareness that most women want to shake but cannot forget. Your idea of letting go, relieving of the bonded self sounds very comforting, like a weight off the shoulders.