Monday, June 17, 2013

The Most Important Post I've Ever Written About Addiction and Recovery

I went to a screening of "The Anonymous People" movie on Saturday.  I met up with nine others, including my best friend and a co-host of The Bubble Hour, Amanda:


Amanda, Ellie, Holly, Jaclyn, Kylee
Here's where I could insert the usual rhetoric of "do they look like alcoholics or drug addicts to you?"

But I'm not.

Because The Anonymous People is at the front end of a movement - a Recovery Advocacy movement - and we're changing the vernacular, the way we talk about addiction.

That is a picture of people in Long Term Recovery.

The shining, smiling people in the photo above all have a chronic, progressive disease that if left untreated will kill us.

"Addiction is a disease without a cure, but WITH A SOLUTION."  (William Cope Moyers)

When someone remarks on the fact that I'm not drinking and I say I'm an alcoholic, even if I quickly add "in recovery" right after, I already know that the word 'alcoholic' has connoted something for them.  We all have a picture of what an alcoholic looks like in our mind's eye.  If I say, however, "I don't drink because I'm in recovery", there is a smile and usually a "good for you!".

Everyone likes a good redemption story, and being in remission from addiction is right up there with being in remission from cancer or other chronic diseases.

Did you notice the word "remission"?  That's because I'll never be cured.  I am a Double Winner - someone with both cancer and alcoholism - and I know that I'll never be fully "cured" of either.  But I also know my chances of staying in remission go up the longer BOTH my diseases are inactive.

Do you have a picture in your mind's eye about what recovery looks like?  Most people don't, because recovery has long been kept in the shadows.  Because of the stigma, most addicts and alcoholics do not speak openly about their recovery.  The media is full of addiction horror stories, but there are very few recovery stories, and we're trying to change that.

Addiction is a disease.  It has been recognized as a disease by the medical community for decades.


While the choice to take a drink or use a drug is voluntary, what happens to my brain vs. a "normal" person's brain is completely different.  If a comparison to cancer or diabetes or other chronic diseases makes you uncomfortable, think of it like an allergy.  My body reacts differently to alcohol, triggering compulsive behaviors (like wanting more) despite any negative consequences that may occur as a result of drinking.

So, people may say, "Just don't drink!!  If you were allergic to peanuts, you'd stay away from peanuts!"

Here is the root of the stigma, I think, because the symptoms of the disease of alcoholism are behavioral.  When someone is stuck in the cycle of addiction, they aren't trying to ruin their lives, or drink more than a normal person.  They are trying to just have one or two, but since their bodies are hard-wired to respond differently, it just isn't possible.  We call it "being born without an 'off' switch".  It can take decades for the disease to take root, so evidence of addiction isn't always readily apparent.

By the time someone realizes there is a problem, they are usually caught in the emotional addiction (if not the physical one) and can't get out on their own.  Their thinking is the problem - it's a brain disease - whether it's denial or the belief that if they try hard enough they can cut back or stop altogether.

An addict can no more think their way out of addiction than a cancer patient can think their way out of cancer.

Would you tell a cancer patient to 'stop' having cancer?  Or a diabetic to start controlling their insulin on their own? 

It sounds like I'm being facetious, but I'm not. 

The "Just Say No" campaign in the eighties - arguably well intentioned- exacerbated the stigma of addiction in very harmful ways.  While the campaign itself did little to curb addiction and addiction related problems in society and the economy, it cemented in the public's eye that it's possible to simply say NO to addiction.   It furthered the belief that addiction is a moral failing or lack of willpower.

Willpower has absolutely nothing to do with addiction. If it did, addiction related issues wouldn't cost the US economy over $360 BILLION per year.  If "just saying no" were enough, those of us suffering at the hands of addiction would have said no a long time ago.

What we need is vast policy change, healthcare reform, enough treatment beds and more reimbursement for treating addiction.  The system is reluctant to "dump" money into rehabilitation, with the mistaken belief that addicts and alcoholics don't get better, or at least most of them don't.  We should be treating the addiction problem in the US like any other health crisis, like cancer and obesity.  But we aren't.  WHY?

Here are some startling facts:
  • 63% of Americans are impacted by addiction
  • 67% of Americans observe a stigma towards addiction (this includes the addict themselves, who are trying desperately to 'cure' themselves of the problem, thinking they are weak or morally corrupt).
  • 74% of addicts/alcoholics are ashamed to talk about addiction in their family
  • 80% of people in prison are there due to addiction related issues
  • Addiction (alcohol and illegal drugs) cost the US economy $366 BILLION in 2004. Add in prescription drug abuse which has reached EPIDEMIC proportions and that number goes WAY up.
  • Over 20 million people struggle with addiction. 
  • THERE ARE OVER 23 MILLION PEOPLE IN LONG TERM RECOVERY IN AMERICA ALONE
That last bullet point is the one I want to focus on. Changing the public's perception of addiction by TALKING ABOUT RECOVERY.  Because, everyone, RECOVERY WORKS.  There are more people in recovery from addiction than there are suffering from it.

Here's the rub, though. People don't recover on their own.  Every single recovery program focuses on community - on finding other addicts and alcoholics who understand where you are and can help you navigate life without alcohol or drugs. 

It doesn't matter what program of recovery you follow. Recovery advocacy is for EVERYONE.

You don't have to talk about HOW you recovery, just THAT you recover.

For those of us in programs that have anonymity as a tradition and who are confused about breaking this tradition, this point is KEY.  How you stay sober isn't relevant.  You do not have to be a mouthpiece for an individual program of recovery.  You can talk about recovery without ever mentioning how you do it.  When someone who is suffering asks you how you stay sober (and if you talk about recovery they will ask, I guarantee it), then you are free to share - in the sacredness of a one-on-one (or group) setting - how you do it.

But until the public understands that RECOVERY HAPPENS, people are going to stay stuck in addiction.  People are going to misunderstand what addiction means.  People aren't going to know it is quite literally on every street in America.  Every street has someone stuck in the darkness and isolation of addiction, and every street has someone thriving in recovery.  We have enough coverage of the destruction of addiction.  We sensationalize the stories of celebrities crashing cars, going in and out of rehab.  We condemn the havoc alcoholism and addiction bring to society.

We are sensationalizing the wrong thing. Let's sensationalize recovery.

How? How do we do this?  Not everyone needs to stand on a hilltop and tell the world they are in recovery.  For the same reason lots of people choose not to talk openly about their cancer, diabetes or other chronic illness, because it's personal.  But usually a cancer or diabetes sufferer isn't ashamed (I know there are cases where shame comes into play in these diseases, too).  An addict is almost always ashamed until - if they are lucky - they find their way into a program of recovery and discover they are NOT ALONE and there IS hope.

What we need are healthcare and policy changes that support an addict or alcoholic wanting help.  If you decide you want help - even if you're forced to get help - it's astonishingly hard to get a bed in treatment.  LONG TERM treatment is needed, whether it's inpatient or out, to start on the path to recovery.  Even if you DO find a treatment program, it's usually prohibitively expensive. 

To sum up: today in our society a person stuck in the cycle of addiction has to work their way past the stigma and shame, ask for help (and the statistic above shows that most people don't even want to tell their family) and then FIND that help.  And then pay for it.

The system is BROKEN.

If we channeled money into prevention and treatment that $360 billion would go DOWN.  Parents, this involves you, too. Prescription drug abuse is everywhere. Literally. Kids of every economic and ethnic background are trying these drugs, and for those that have the disease of addiction it is killing them.  They don't just try an Oxy at a "Pharma-Party", they end up mere WEEKS later addicted to heroin.  It's happening in YOUR community. It is not a reflection on your parenting.

It is an epidemic.

If you want to become involved in Recovery Advocacy, there are many places to go.  Google recovery organizations in your state.  Go to Faces and Voices of Recovery and see what they are doing there.  Check out the trailer below for The Anonymous People

There are other ways, too.  If you have a family member who is struggling, open your heart and mind and realize they have a disease.  This doesn't excuse behavior.  Consequences of addiction needs to be acknowledge and amends to society and loved ones paid.  I look at it this way:

Addiction is not my fault, but recovery is my responsibility.

Unless the public's perception of alcoholism and addiction changes, and more resources are dedicated to helping addicts as patients who have a disease, we will stay rooted in fear, stigma and reacting to this problem instead of being proactive.

Remember "Silence = Death"?  The gay community recognized that the stigma surrounding their community was going to kill them unless they changed the public's perception of HIV. They came out of the shadows, stared down that stigma, and changed how the public (and policy makers) view HIV.

Addicts and alcoholics are in the same position.  We DIE of this disease.. the one so may of us can't talk about.  It will KILL us.

If you are an alcoholic in recovery, try changing the way you talk openly about your disease.  You are a Person In Recovery.  Even if you only have one day.  Welcome.  You are a miracle.  Be proud.

Please watch this trailer- it's only 3 minutes.  If you are in a position to do so - and I hope in the future many, many more of us will be in that position, SHOUT to everyone you know to watch this. If you have a loved one or friend who struggles or who is in recovery, this effects you, too.  If you pay taxes this effects you. 

Addiction impacts EVERYONE.

Get informed. Get active.  Get well.




46 comments:

  1. Such an important post. As always, I'm in awe of your honesty and strength.

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  2. Ellie, you are a force! love this post and you!

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  3. Ellie, I am printing out your post and slipping it into some paperwork my son asked for. I hope he reads it when he sees it. I try and tell him I know the struggle that he is in with addiction but he won't talk to me about it. I want him to know that he's not alone.

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  4. Ellie,I will share this post.I think that everybody suffering from addiction and the people that care about them should read this.
    I'm real colse to all the great ladies in the photo up top.I'm proud to call them friends and fellow people in recovery
    Thank you
    Paul DiVitto

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  5. Operation Justice for JadenJune 17, 2013 at 4:49 PM

    I'd love for you to share our story, as your story was just shared on our page! We are the change we want to see. Thank you for inspiring others to learn from you and to challenge themselves. Recovering mommy's unite!
    https://www.facebook.com/operationjusticeforjaden

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  6. I saw a screening, as well, and was so excited about it! Here was my comment on my Facebook Page the following day:

    Last night I attended the screening of The Anonymous People in Atherton, CA, and they've nailed it!!!!

    "Thank you" doesn't even describe my gratitude for what they've created with its spotlight on the modern addiction recovery movement (those seeing this film will likely be as surprised as I was by how far this effort had come before it fell off the cliff with Nixon's election and the policies that followed under subsequent administrations).

    The Anonymous People is sure to change societal views of addiction because it puts a face on addiction recovery, and as so many featured in the film so clearly, passionately, powerfully stated - we have no choice. Whether addiction touches you as an individual or you as a family member or you as a member of society experiencing its myriad of secondhand impacts - we must rally behind this effort to fight the stigma and shame that surround this disease. Only then can we stop its ravages and get to what really matters - intervening, treating and preventing this chronic, often relapsing brain disease.

    To find a screening coming to a city near you or to get involved, here's a link to their FB page, https://www.facebook.com/TheAnonymousPeopleMovie?directed_target_id=0

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  7. Your essay is the first I've seen to draw an analogy I've thought of often, but not seen in print: AIDS & addiction. Gay communities, in the 1970s & 1980s, were radicalized by righteous anger; they organized and acted up; they asserted their right to the franchise by demanding medical research and development. Public funerals, with open caskets, grieved America. Brave men (and some women, of course) were willing to dramatize a public shame. The real shame was on America, then and now, for standing by while people died. We need to learn some lessons from gay activism and bring a grievance to the streets. Neither addicts nor AIDS victims have anything to be ashamed of; but we both have plenty to grieve.

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  8. I hope that this movie gets national release and the national attention it deserves. I don't know anyone who has seen it who isn't moved by it. We are all touched by addiction in some way. In my case it is my son who is now in recovery (1 year May 4!). I love the message and it is something needed in our country to turn the stigma around. I loved reading your post... you have a way with words and it's great that you are sharing this important message!

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  9. Great post, Ellie. So important. Thank you.

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  10. This is very exciting. You can definitely count on me for support. I have felt like I have battled the system with little to no impact. As an advocate for being "recovered" ... contingent upon spiritual growth AND as an author, coach, and speaker I see your work as invaluable and equally inspiring.

    Lisa Neumann
    (A recovered alcohol with long-term sobriety)

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  11. Awesome! There are more and more voices and faces joining to emerge from the darkness of shame and stigma for the disease of addiction. Thrilled to find this and add to my list of heroes. Since 2007 we've been giving away wristbands: No Shame or Blame ~ Just Love! Together we are making a difference.

    Proud to be another voice and face in the exploding light,

    Barbara
    Jim's mom, Bill's sister and Amanda's aunt

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  12. This sounds like a great project and I hope one day there will not be such a stigma associated with things like alcoholism, so people will be able to be better supported. My stepson passed away at the young age of 49 due to cirrhosis from alcoholism.

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  13. Ellie, this is the first time I've read one of your articles. My 22-year-old daughter is an addict in recovery. The last three years have been an emotional rollercoaster. Watching her struggle with this disease and not directly being able to help her with it is painful and frustrating. I pray she keeps fighting to stay clean.

    I enjoyed your article and plan to keep visiting your site.
    I also wanted to ask you if you've ever heard of Heroes in Recovery?

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  14. Excellent - the message and your voice are strong, impactful and life-giving.

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  15. Wow! Kudos to all of you guys! I know it won’t be easy but I bet your mission will be successful one coz’ you have a righteous purpose. I just hope you will never lose the courage, passion and determination in living up for your belief and mission. Good luck guys!

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  16. Wonderful post! Thank you so much. I am really looking forward to seeing the film. I started speaking out about addiction over a year ago and have never regretted it. Here is my blog is you are interested: shadowsinpei.blogspot.ca

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  17. an awesome post. i really appreciate you for it. you have shared something really important. thanks a lot for it.

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  18. This may very well be the most important post you've ever written about recovery....and it damn sure is one of the most powerful, concise & important post on recovery I've ever read. Thank you Ellie.

    I'm an actress, and I've never been prouder to be in a film in my life. The Anonymous People will change thousands of lives, and I believe will change how the world views addiction. One person at a time.

    Love,
    Kristen Johnston

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  19. This is a fine piece. I have just discovered your blog for the first time, doing research about the "Recovery Movement" which has not really taken hold in South africa, yet! However, we are screening The Anonymous People film here! Very excited by your response to it.
    Thank you

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  37. Am writing this article to appreciate the good work of DR OGUDUGU that helped me recently to bring back my wife that left me for another man for no reason for the past 3 years. After seeing a post of a woman on the internet testifying of how she was helped by DR OGUDUGU. I also decided to contact him for help because all i wanted was for me to get my wife, happiness and to make sure that my child grows up with his mother. Am happy today that he helped me and i can proudly say that my wife is now with me again and she is now in love with me like never before. Are you in need of any help in your relationship like getting back your man, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, winning of lotteries, herbal cure for sickness or job promotion E.T.C. Viewers reading my post that needs the help of DR OGUDUGU should contact him now on his E-mail: GREATOGUDUGU@GMAIL.COM...THANK YOU SIR!!!

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  38. I was hurt and heart broken by my husband, and my marriage has been restored with the help of best online spell caster that is powerful and genuine! His name is Dr Frank Ojo!contact email Templeofloveandprosperity@gmail.com or you can call him through is mobile number +2348072370762 5, or visit his Web site http://africatemple.yolasite.com, what will i have done if not the great help of Dr Frank Ojo .Thanks a lot Dr

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  39. We had been married for a while and things were OK, I was in love with her, she was crazy about me, but later on everything changed and by complicated exterior circumstances which did not have to do with us, we decided to pause for a while, but still remain friends. But in the end, she started getting cold: she treated me as if she did not know me, she acted too immature to the point where she did not even say hi to me when we bumped into each other (we had the same circle of friends). Of course, it hurt so badly, I wanted to kill her. Then out of nowhere she disappeared. I wrote her for her birthday and she replied little. Some of my “friends” saw she had left and started going cold with me too, as if it was my fault that she had left. The few that were still my close friends and still hers, told me she had moved on, that it was best not to make contact with her. Then out of the blue some months later she reappeared, but still acting like a douche. I was suffering emotionally of course, because we had never even had a divorce, it was just supposed to be a pause, so I did not know how to react, what to feel, what to do… anyway, she kept coming over and over on the weekends, and I had to deal with my “friends” who the moment they saw her, immediately left me and went over to her. Eventually, I decided to give up trying to restore anything with her as she was showing no signs of wanting me back, and started healing. Around four months after we had ended our relationship, I find out she is with another guy! That’s when I knew I had not gotten over her, because I cried, I was mad, it was just a feeling of “oh, poor me”. I could not stand losing her to some other guy, I decided to go diabolical (i.e. via spell). I got involved with a lot of fraudulent so-called spell casters on the internet who ripped me off my money without getting a result as to what I wanted. I almost lost my sanity. Just as I almost was giving up, one faithful morning, I received a mail from one of the spell castes I had applied for spell with but never got a reply all along. He made me to understand that he could not attend to all his costumers then because it was that time of the year for his annual fellowship with his ancestors for the renewal of his spiritual and supernatural gift. I told him not to worry about the spell anymore, that I was done with all of them fake spell casters. He assured me of his 100% genuine work of this gift which he possessed. I decided to give it a try. After spending about 2500 USD (which was due to my inability to provide a whole lot of materials which he needed for the spell process), I am happy to announce to the world that I have gotten back my wife and we are expecting our first baby. All thanks to Dr. Kene Dilli. All you out there tired of all these fraudsters that call themselves spell casters (seeking to rip were they have not sown) and you require legitimate spell for whatsoever purpose, contact Dr. Kene Dilli on his email address; kenedillitemples AT yahoo DOT com

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  40. Hi. my ex bf just broke up with me 2 weeks ago. on the first week of breaking up, he send my friend a text asking me how am i doing. the my friend tried to convince him to change his mind about the breakup. the he said it's better this way. i know this is his logic mind talking. and during weekend i start to call him. crying, begging and pleading asking for another chance. he only rejected me. then 3 days after i text him again, asking for another chance ( i know i'm desperate) and he reject me again. so i said to him i won't bother you anymore. we've been together for a year and a half now, he said he want to breakup with me because i was too controlling. he wants his freedom. we're in a same course at college, and today i just knew that he changed his course :( he even deleted me on social media) i was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Unity can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he did a spell for me. Three days later, my bf came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I and my bf are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr Unity . If you need a spell caster that can cast a spell that truly works, I suggest you contact him. He will not disappoint you. This is his E-mail: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com .

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  41. How to Get Your Ex Lover Back or Save A Marriage‎ with the help of Dr.Unity..
    My husband and I have been married for 2 and a half years. In August it will be 9 years that we have been a part of each other lives. Recently he found out about a guy I slept with when we were separated and I did not tell him about. Before we got married we both agreed to let everything out and start fresh. I didn’t tell him. I was embarrassed bc the guy and I never actually had sex…just everything that led up to it. not to mention it was my brothers best friend and a huge mistake. well it came out recently along with some lies. A friend told my husband I cheated on him and I have never cheated on my husband nor would I ever. He is convinced I am a cheater. we have 2 beautiful kids and all I have ever wanted is a happy family. my kids and my husband truly are my everything. I can not see a future where my husband is not in it. I want to do whatever I can to save my marriage but I feel my husband is already set on the divorce. I know I could have been a better wife to him….a wife he deserves but now I fee like I have realized it too late. I look at my kids and I hate myself for allowing myself to break my family apart. I know my husband is not perfect and he has hurt me tremendously these past 8 years we have been off and on but we made it through for a reason. I love him and I want to save my marriage. . As I was browsing through the internet one day, I came across a website that suggested that Dr Unity can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he did a spell for me. Two days later, my husband came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I and my family are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr Unity . If you need a spell caster that can cast a spell that truly works fast, I suggest you contact Dr Unity. He will not disappoint you. Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com .

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  42. I never believed in love spells or magic until I saw a testimony about one woman called Clara on the internet testifying about how a spell caster called GREAT ORIRI of (greatoririobaspellhome@gmail.com) bring back her ex husband who left her for another woman, and i decided to contact the man to give him a try. So when i contacted him he told me that he is going to bring my husband back to me that i should give him two days to do the casting of my spell which i did. I am out here to testify that what GREAT ORIRI did for me really work out good for me because I am really happy now with my husband because after i contacted GREAT ORIRI he promise to bring back my husband to me which he did. So i really don't have much to say about this man but all i have to say is that GREAT ORIRI is really a powerful man and could help cast spells to bring back one's, lost, misbehaving lover. I'm now happy and testifying the good work of GREAT ORIRI because i am now leaving happily with my family. So if you need any help from him you can contact him via email: GREATORIRIOBASPELLHOME@GMAIL.COM

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