If I took everything out of my refrigerator except one jug of regular tap water, I would still open the door throughout the day and peer in.
It's an old habit, and old habits - as they say - die hard.
I'm tired of unconscious behaviors, like peering into my fridge for no discernable reason. Once I'm aware of a pattern I want to change (or, more likely, once it is pointed out to me), over time I can engage in alternative actions. But first I have to have some moment of clarity about what needs to change, and that is the greatest challenge.
I want to be more awake. More conscious. As I parse my thoughts I realize how much unconscious negativity I have, how much judgment against myself and others. Negativity and criticism are cheap and easy. Acceptance is hard. Change can be even harder. But hardest of all? Awareness.
The opposite of negativity isn't always positivity, in my opinion. I don't want to walk around with a smile on my face all the time, spewing happy bumper sticker slogans or catch phrases like don't worry, be happy. The opposite of negativity and criticism is awareness and change. It's easy to point out someone else's flaws. Harder to do is to turn the spotlight inward, and think: what is eliciting this response in me? What don't I want to face in myself? How can I be part of a solution, instead of sitting around actively pointing out problems?
What you have there, he'll say, is one jug full of tap water.
Now what do you want to do about it?