A wonderful, wise, funny woman I knew in recovery (sadly, she passed away on New Year's Eve) used to say all the time, "what other people think of me is none of my business".
For a long time, I laughed when she said this, because it's funny. But I think I'm only now beginning to understand the deeper meaning behind the humor.
It's a different story now that I'm sober. The past two and a half years have been spent trying to piece myself together from the inside out. I used to draw my entire sense of self-worth from external cues; if you were happy with me, I was happy with me. End of story.
Because, really, if I'm comfortable with who I am, what I believe, what I want from life, it doesn't matter what you think. I'm trying to strike that delicate balance between wanting you to like me, and not altering my sense of self in the process.
So: what other people think of me is none of my business. If I'm not spending all my mental energy wondering about what you think of me, I can figure out what I think of me.
But you still like me, right? RIGHT?